Hey there!
If you haven’t read my Review Post (previous entry), do read
to get the picture. J
So if you read my Review Post regarding on my latest entry
“Girls Perception on Guys”. I’ve spent 2 days straight to write it and somehow
I find it as a controversy for some people. It just doesn’t sound right. So I
had to change it to ‘You Reflect Your Partner’.
Regarding to my denial on saying that in some unexpected
ways, we’ll know how our future partner would be like. How exactly? By
reflecting ourselves. As simple as that. Crazy as it might sound but I can make
a logical explainaition on that.
In a human’s way of natural opposes, guys are the partner
seekers. No matter how coward they feel, it’s a manly choice to make the first
move. Besides, bravery is what girls want to see. Girls, on the other hand, are
attention seekers. Oh really? No, not everyone. But girls are naturally waiting
for a miracle. We don’t walk to some guy and let them know our feelings. No
way. Total reputation spoiler there. Reputation and girls can’t be separated.
We accept the fact we’re easily being judged even on the slightest acts we do.
Basically the normal story goes on when a guy finds an
interest in a particular girl, makes the first move and waits for her response.
Girls are born to wait for guys to seek for her hand. We all know the flow. But
really, try going to a deeper aspect. Let’s answer these questions first shall
we?
BOY’S SIDE:
What is the guy like?
What are his life
goals?
On a scale of 1-10,
how would you rate his attitude?
When he finds the
girl as an interest, what pops out of his mind?
How does he show his
interest to her?
What does he think
while waiting for her response?
GIRL’S SIDE:
What is the girl
like?
What are her life
goals?
On a scale of 1-10,
how would you rate her attitude?
When the guy shows
interest on her, what pops out of her mind?
How does she accept
his act on letting her know he likes her?
Does he reflect what
she does for a living?
Show interest in
return?
Whether we realize or not those are the basic things we need
to prescribe on knowing how the flow goes on. Now, why do I highlight on
attitude? Let me show this sense of psychology neither of us even myself
understand much before this. (More to a benefit of possessing a positive
attitude)
You know, having a good attitude isn’t just about to show
you’re emotionally stabled and wise. No. That isn’t the point. Even in Islam,
if we can’t commit to a higher level of our responsibility on fighting for our
religion, the least thing we can do is to have a good attitude. Why? Because it
has it’s emotional side effects. Like I said, it’s not just because so we seem
to be fully-mannered, not having to experience fake friends, prevents enemies
or etc. Not only that.
True, those are the physical –what we can observe as
benefits, but most people don’t realize this. The mentality of a person
changes. The crucial thinking of the surrounding increases, the brain ignites
more positive impacts to the mind and most importantly, the person is able to
be rational on just about anything. Having a good attitude changes an
individual to a healthier mind. I cannot deny that.
In short, having a good attitude changes your way of
thinking, it changes your character and personality, it gives you a better view
of the society and of course, it sends you vibes on the type of person you’ll
be interested. If vice versa –bad attitude, then you’ll be able to guess?
What am I talking about actually? What does having a good
attitude intersects with having a good partner? Aha, so you have reached to the
climax of the entry on my point on saying this.
Note to Girls: You know where you’re standing or what you’re
like in people’s eyes. You can see that by the way a guy tends to show their
interests on you. Seriously.
If you’re the type who has a feeling of eager for attention
and love for boys, you do whatever it takes to get it. I won’t say further on
this one, we all know what we do obviously. I’m not saying that those who want
attention have a bad attitude, but seriously, I am asking straight on this. If
true, you have a good attitude which results in a wiser mentality of the brain,
why would you want attention from ajnabi’s? What’s the good in that? Attitude
and thoughts, they link with each other. I realize they come real close in
connection of emotional feelings. Now, who am I to judge, but let’s get to a
point on in terms of knowing your future partner shall we? If you crave for
attention, you can guess what type of guy you’ve caught right?
“Hmm, how can you
know? I think he’s a good person!”
Okay. How does he treat you during early stages of your
knowing with him? Does he limits his time with you? Or does he stumble himself
at your desk when you’re busy studying as if he doesn’t care of your academic
progressions? Or maybe he sees you return after a chicken pox infection, looks
at your face stating “Thank God you don’t have scars on your face! Woo hoo!”.
Or lastly, he doesn’t even show his interest on you when it’s obvious enough
that there are tons of rumours about him falling for you?
Since I am a girl, I refuse to talk more about this aspect.
I don’t intend to relate it with my personal life or etc but I am sure girls
are rational enough to know how they are being treated. To make a quick
conclusion, if he treats you with respect, you’re on the right track on being a
better person in the future. How to be on the right track in order to one day a
guy asks for your hand in respect? Attitude. Always stick to the attitude.
Similar to guys, if you have a bad attitude, do you think
girls would accept you? Well, might probably yes but obviously it’s because
they are similar to you. The mentality I mean. If you expect to gain the best
quality of girls, bear in mind the best always searches for the best, not
closest. In fact, these kind of girls rather be unwed than to spend the rest of
her life with someone who doesn’t deserve her. I’ve said before that when it comes to love
stories, it’s never heavy sided to guys only.
Girls fall for guys easily, but
girls don’t accept guys that easy. Girls, too, have their own thoughts on
having a partner they’d want. Now, what differs is depends on what is the
girl’s aim in life. So don’t think you can send love letters and yet have a bad
attitude, and expect her to accept you.
Note to Guys: Girls only observe the way you show your
affection to her. That’s all it takes to get the whole picture of your
personality. (A bonus to girls since we’re naturally bound to wait for a guy to
ask for our hand in the future).
Now, since you’ve read this, I refuse to say more
specifically on the aspects a girl would really want a guy to be as their
partner. I mean, like I said, if you have a good attitude, it’ll automatically
give you a personal reference regarding to showing your interests to a girl
without her being annoyed with you. The attitude affects your mentality on
being wiser –even if you have no experience in relationships. It comes with a
package on getting to realize your mental thoughts. Even if I say it and yet
you try to practice those steps without your heart content, no use either.
Similar to just pretending –which is obvious.
As Islam has taught us, in having to build a family, we need
to change ourselves first. It’s not from the moment a pair is married, but
during our teenage lives. That’s our starting point. In order to attract a guy
with hospitality, a girl needs to have a good attitude (to occupy a good sense
of realization and etc). Similar to guys, no excuses. It’s a magnet really. If
you’re trying to be better for the future, you ought to attract a person who,
too, wants to be better for the future. If you want attention, you’ll get
someone who takes you from their own intent of wanting attention. Simple as
that. Life isn’t about correcting yourself to get a wonderful life partner, but
in every good we do, we’ll get so much benefits which I’d dare to say
countless. Getting the right partner includes in the package.
Don’t pretend to be good, but always try to improvise
yourself for the sake of your life. As an ignition to others as well. If you
are sincere, people will be sincere to you. And to be sincere you need to have
a good attitude. See how this relates?
Whatever it is, I can say by conclusion is you’ll know
yourself more when you find a piece of your attitude in another person’s life.
Like I said, life partners remind you of yourself. It doesn’t have to be having
the same interest, but rather both of you having the same inner spirits and
goals in life. The guy may be interested in football while his live partner is
interested in collecting frames. The guy may be someone who has a temper while
the girl is soft-spoken, but may I ask, if they are differ completely, how did
they accept each other? Where do they intersect? The mentality of the mind.
Personalities maybe different, but since they both have the same goals of
having the same life goals, that’s when they find each other attractive –not
just because of physical matters.
I’d be happy to highlight again, we’re a reflection of our
partner. If you’re a person with mentality A, you’ll attract someone with the
same mentality A. If you’re mentality is B, but wanting to ask for the hand of
a mentality A, then you’ll have to change. It’s against the physics rules of
magnetic attraction. They aren’t attracted to opposite poles. You’ll never bond
them. Note that the personality doesn’t effect. What effects is the mentality
of your mind. The mentality of your mind to know how to attract someone in
order to take her hand, or the mentality of the mind to either know they are
the type you’d want as a future husband. They come naturally. Only, if you
attain what religion has taught. More specifically, what Islam has taught to
us.
In conclusion, if you want a specific partner who is what
you’d hope for, then you have to change yourself first. But bear in mind, you
don’t just change just because an individual you’d want. You change for the
sake of religion, yourself and the community. The life partner will soon come
in package. In this entry I’ll only highlight on terms of getting the ‘dream’
life partner.
Note to Boys: Girls are picky as you are. If you expect a
partner that’ll serve the best for your children, don’t think they’ll be dumb
enough to want you when you’re always swearing, lazy and expect to have another
wife in addition. Boys are as equal as girls. It’s not just the girls who ought
to change to be wanted to ask for her hand. (Just reminding since today’s
community males are nagging about wanting
a muslimah as their wife but don’t realize they’d have to change to
attain so) Girls are demanding as you are.
The love story isn’t heavy sided to a gender only J Wallahualam.
Both male and female has to change themselves first in order to attain a partner who is what you're looking for.
