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There’s an epic ideology that contributes to your way of perceiving things. The times when we’ve mistaken opinions to be misleading and pointing towards people’s rights. Opinions are just opinions.
Opinions are to be linked with your schemata –a reach of what you have implemented various experiences and knowledge to something that makes you who you are. Your personality and certainly your way of thinking.
Put away your judgemental ideas to the side and before you start to learn how to differentiate between a statement and a personal thought. It’s disgusting to be ‘outsmarting’ people by backstabbing what they say.
You put yourself in a way of showing how short-minded you are to the public by taking attention or power to be somewhat intelligent by using other’s faults. Might not even be their faults. Everyone agrees we have the rights to say what we like in social media for example, yet why do so many people do not understand the definition of a free speech?
Learn to differentiate between an opinion with a fact.
Make sure your opinion to a particular matter is relevant.
The opinion does not bring power to be called as true. They are just something that people link an info with their existing schemata like what I’ve said. In twitter, even the tiniest matter as said by a person claiming they prefer A than B for example, has truly raised an anger to people
The latest one was this boy stating he mentioned 99.7% men preferred Muslim women wearing a bawal instead of the shawl for example. (For those who don’t know, they're two distinctive types of scarves Malaysian Muslim women wear in general).
There were so many feedbacks like ‘we women don’t dress up for men’, ‘we don’t care what you think’,’ pretty girls wear anything and still like fine dude’ or ‘some of just feel comfortable wearing shawl’. First and foremost people argue on the percentage of men stated by the guy –which to them was not even a solid proof/real statistic. If you read carefully, it wasn’t a fact. It’s just a random hyperbole for the guy to say he liked seeing girls in bawal hijab. Just like you trying to show people how much you love eating pizza for example. ‘I would literally eat 100 pizzas now’.
You aren't exactly am capable of eating that much but indeed it adds the understanding that you do like pizza.
We sometimes tend to argue on things that shouldn't be complained.
There’s nothing wrong with expressing your thoughts. But the problem in the society is we tend to use people’s opinions and judge them as if there was a better ‘idea’ besides them and their personal thoughts are invalid.
Unless, if it is indeed offensive. Such as indirect rape threats to women in the name of dawah' in Islam yet never was there a verse or an agreement to advice someone's flaws in an unmannerly way regardless even in the name of religion. That, is offensive.
Before you become a judgemental person openly, understand how offensive is 'offensive'. It is just a matter of he likes Superman but you like Batman? It is a matter of who's smarter and intelligent? Could anything be offensive in one's mind when it's just a simple expression instead of an action of hurting people with intention?
You don’t need to be a debater, psychologist or a philosopher to understand the human mind esp when it comes to expression into words. You just need a peace of mind and your mouth shut thinking 'is this worth the argue?'
Just because someone’s opinion seems disagreeable to you doesn’t mean you have the right to say it’s wrong. Unless if it is which includes the other opponent having to trust the wrong fact, provide them with various strong valid statements before you say no. Still, even if they are ever wrong, please understand bashing doesn’t help. Softness in advice does.
We’re all lack in knowledge in certain areas, we are not the best versions of humans to proof our ideas are the best among the best. Which is why you need to be silent and find a lot of resources and learn. Learn new facts, people’s lack of reasonability and also have the strength to understand human communication to a deeper depth.
Opinions are just opinions. They may be differ to your thoughts but it doesn’t mean you’re right.
"I don't lead a particularly Bohemian existence. The main criterion for me is not to be the judgemental of other people so as long as they what they do is not harmful or offensive to others" Nick Clegg
Before you bash people stating it's offensive, make sure you even know if it's even valid to be argued about.
