credits: phloa,timid.
We deprive ourselves to meet the expectations of people around us. We get drained, presumably unable to make intact with the idea of ‘change’.
Dear readers, we’re all in a struggle.
There’s a stress in recognizing someone to is having the capability to make amends of their life.
Don’t ever, ever say ‘why can’t you change instantly?’, to someone.
Ever.
Sometimes when we look around and observe people –how they live their life, how their actions can determine how they live with their family etc. You can look at their faces and have a description of their shortcomings. We’re not finding faults, nor are we saying ‘change’ is impossible.
We need to have anticipation to the better, yes. It takes time, slow step by step acceptance.
Sometimes I struggle to change, not because I do not want to, but because people are expecting me to be the best outcome without considering my backgrounds or to create a distinction on how our lives are differed.
And I deeply understand we’re all going through this stage in life.
I realized that similar in agreeing with the concept that everyone has their individual strengths, we, too, also have a difference in being more dominant in one criterion than the other.
I remarked people who have a better insight in developing more time for islamic classes for example, have an originally stronger religious background. People holding a position in a debate club, dancing class or even in excellent in cooking inherits their family members who too, had the similar talent being passed down to them. I realized that whatever change which is necessary for an individual to make, it’s easier for those who have already had the comfort in it mentally and physically.
Once you have reach contentment in the ‘situation’, you become very confident in it. You start to think ‘Hey if I can do this, why can’t they be the same?’
You are lucky to have the 'change' to live your life parallel to what you have been through. Some of us are still changing, still learning to vast and understand the actions we make to be irrelevant or useful.
Some of us are still struggling to find our identities. To find our comfort. To find peace in doing what we should do. The point is, some of us need time to change.
We are noteworthy, we are adapting. Each of us without anyone else’s consciousness are trying to be the best daughter/son to our parents, reading books to add more senses that our brain can indeed expand more than we thought, to spent time in isolation thinking of the creation of Allah, or even thriving to address ourselves to become what we want to be.
To reach to that level where we are doing what we do, instead of merely focusing on our own imperfections.
One person may know their lacking in certain matters. Therefore, they try to change and develop slowly. Just because they aren’t showing their conviction in the matter as much as you do, it doesn’t conclude they are not trying.
No matter how many times you ask someone to change, contemplate their mental thoughts as well.
We can always say to a person to smile always, but to have them smile with pure sincerity will take time. We can always advise someone to change to the better using various examples and motivation in support. Yes, we all know and are mature enough hopefully to know the consequences of being too comfortable with our existing lifestyle which may not necessarily be the solution to our need for consistent happiness.
But deep down, I’m sure all of us has this little spark and a little prayer to be better even though it’s never going to be an easy road.
In conclusion, ‘change’ is possible, and it takes time.
Never bother with what people give you their 2 cents about yourself. You haven’t changed to be a greater person. You still look unreligious. You’re better this way that way more. You need to have a sense of changes in yourself. Why can’t you be…etc?’
Depends on people, if you know you are in the middle of the process of getting to the comfort zone of ‘change’, keep going. It might take months, years perhaps to finally see the difference but like what Islam has taught us, it depends on our intentions, niat.
Digest information and create a sense of realization of the ‘change’ you need to be for yourself. Slowly make the change not because people tell you to, but because your heart is already accepting it more every day. Sometimes our past does not correlate with the need of having a specific trait, we stumble in words when people who already do understand where they stand in life.
It’s important for people to keep in mind that our lives differ and presented to be unique. Holding tight nor we are refusing to change.
We just need time.
Not time to wait and let it spark some fairy dust on our heads to see the beauty of change, but to continuously learn and train ourselves in loving something that has rarely been applied, into a highlight of our motivation to keep improving for the future.
