People ask, isn’t it tiring to be nice?
It’s easy to know your goals, aims, priorities but it’s hard to understand yourself mentally –let alone in how people perceive you. You do good or mean things you see it as yourself. Not in a way of you judging yourself. Honestly, I do ponder why people can define me to be somewhat decent when I do know who I am. A lot of people know about me too.
It’s hard to be able to contradict the fact that we are all evolved based on our experiences in life. Develops our maturity to an extent to be equivalently wise. Yet we learn and learn to adapt with the idea not necessarily being nice. Some people are generally nice to everyone even to those who find faults in them. There are also people who only be nice to those who deserve it.
Like having affectionate parents who worked dead hard to feed you and provide eternal love, families close friends partners who display their love for you, any cleaners in general, unlucky yet grateful people, strong individuals, the first class waiter service, and even those who look at you in the streets giving a sincere smile.
They deserve your smile.
I can be really mean depending on what people do to me or how someone can literally waste my time with unnecessary matters. Impatiently thinking on easier alternatives to go around for errands on my own. But then again, who are we to be mean to people?
Haven’t we all reach to a point of being quite of a bad person ourselves?
This is something we all will be fighting with our ego of letting go. Ego comes from your mind of settling in the principle of no one goes beyond/denies my beliefs. It’s a trouble if you start to love yourself to the maximum (I should write an entry about the danger of loving yourself exceedingly, don't you think?). It can be crucial if you refuse to manage your ego. You put yourself before anyone else and it gets out of control. Especially if you’re an extrovert. Especially that.
But to give in for the best. Sometimes we all are mean to other people even though we think we aren’t.
They deserve your smile.
Being nice to people is not fragile. It’s a complete strength no one even myself can put into words. You feel inclined to give more and more of kindness to people you don’t bother getting drained from it. But, only to a certain extent. We need our limits. Always know how to comprehend the concept of being nice to people around you because you love to with being nice expecting something in return.
Whenever we smile at someone and they just leave me with no particular expression, it gets to the point you think they've been through a lot of things. Behind a mother who didn't see you compliment her child, she might have spent the whole night trying to calm them down. That friend you've said hello and didn't greet you back may have been so engrossed thinking how to solve go home when he's broke. The lady who gave you a stare intensively by the streets might have reminded herself of her daughter.
Whenever we smile at someone and they just leave me with no particular expression, it gets to the point you think they've been through a lot of things. Behind a mother who didn't see you compliment her child, she might have spent the whole night trying to calm them down. That friend you've said hello and didn't greet you back may have been so engrossed thinking how to solve go home when he's broke. The lady who gave you a stare intensively by the streets might have reminded herself of her daughter.
Everyone deserves our smile. What they do not deserve to get is the feeling of tranquillity to acknowledge one’s heart. You learn before you love, you cherish before you appreciate and you observe before you believe.
They deserve your smile.
No matter how much you deny they rather get bashed again or deserve something bad straight away, we have faith in Him. So anything people causes any distress on you, pray, put it aside and wait for karma to appear. In Islam, we believe in kifarah which is almost very similar to karma. After all, being patient is always the best revenge. Always.
We become affable because we want to, not because we are expected to. Sincerity. We lend a smile even when are given hatred in return. Our attitudes determine our own self. Our reactions don't really affect the person as much as ourselves. Imagine how cold our hearts are for every bad word or rolling of eyes we've made to people who exist in our lives to either be a test or a blessing.
Because all the postive emotions you've passed to strangers, your parents, that officer or the sellers who's promoting their food during Bazaar' just makes you feel better too. For every twinkle you give you receive peace of the heart. For every smile you give people they will stop for a minute to feel content about themselves,
Let's demonstrate to ourselves that we are capable to smile and spread positivity without the need of having that stress-resistant life. To also create a belief to our society a smile isn't just a sign of flirtatious but just because. To give everyone have a reason to smile.
They deserve your smile.
Because all the postive emotions you've passed to strangers, your parents, that officer or the sellers who's promoting their food during Bazaar' just makes you feel better too. For every twinkle you give you receive peace of the heart. For every smile you give people they will stop for a minute to feel content about themselves,
Let's demonstrate to ourselves that we are capable to smile and spread positivity without the need of having that stress-resistant life. To also create a belief to our society a smile isn't just a sign of flirtatious but just because. To give everyone have a reason to smile.
Therefore, still nothing makes the heart lighter than being that person you’ve always dreamed of being.
A human.
