Hey there!
Yeah, I’m late on celebrating Women’s Day. Kinda like when
the party’s over then suddenly I barge in the room with confidence holding a
cake to just be starred by the crowd. Late. Bummer.
Haha. Do I mind? Nope.
Anyway, I’m in a super duper good mood. I don’t know why.
But I sure am in an excellent shape to write this entry especially to my dear
girl friends or any other girls out there.
Firstly girls, I am sure hardly firm on this perception of
NOT depending your life on something or someone else EXCEPT your worship
towards God –compulsory.
Who are they that you have to be so obsessed or eager to be
like? Who are they that you have to sacrifice your natural way to impress them?
What kind of so-called prize you’ll get if it means to give up your talents?
Answer me please :P
Stop
Admiring Other Girl’s Life and Leave with ‘Why I am not like her?’
Come on’, what’s so bad about yourself? She’s prettier?
She’s smarter? She’s perfect? She has a perfect life? You feel unworthy? You
feel useless? You’re mind lingers with such thoughts as these right? Don’t lie
to me.
Even I feel this insecurities sometimes. But I just make it
clear to say,
If you understand yourself and discovered your whole
potential, you’ll laugh for being so insecure. I swear you’ll laugh.
Make a list of your capabilities. Then you’ll realize that
it’s such a waste to even be jealous of another girl. Like if you’re jealous of
other girls being smart for example, think again. Compare to your actions. Does
she know how to draw? No. Does she know how to sing? No. She plays the piano?
No. She’s good in your all-time sports game? Nope.
So, why are you jealous of her? Because she’s smart.
Now you know she isn’t talented for the things you’re good
at, why be jealous? She only wins one point from you. That’s all it takes.
I’m not telling you to make such comparations –everyone is
born with differ specialities. Even if she has more talents than you, how would
you know? Have you even tried to search for your talents?
That’s why you should know yourself. Spend time enjoying
yourself rather than be busy admiring others. Trust me, you’re totally worth
it. You need discoveries.
In the end, you’ll laugh for being stupid on thinking she’s
better than you.
Take All Your
Time Building That Self Confidence
When it comes to girls, there’s a lot of things that makes
us feel confident –or not that will spoil the day. An example is when it comes
to dressing up.
Doesn’t matter if we’re either feminine or not, making sure
we go out with the clothes we’re comfortable with is a priority. To me success
in being confident is when you go out for shopping or socializing yourself with
other people without even thinking things like ‘OMG, how do I look?, do I look
weird? I think my scarf is too big, I should go to the mirror and check it
out?’
They happen a lot in the mind. It’s not about impressing
people. It’s just you being confident in yourself. Even as a public speaker,
the dressing attire matters a lot.
Before the competition or programs that needs to be facing a
crowd, I’ll get myself prepared an hour before it starts. Appearance matters a
lot to this term of being confident. So you can do anything without having a
hard time on your appearance.
May I highlight that appearance to me is not having a pretty
face. It means finding the right attire or clothes that perfectly fits your
physical body and not look weird or etc. In short, you look great in your own
view.
Trust me, when it
comes to physical comfort, your eyes never lie
So, girls if it means building your confidence by taking at
least 30 minutes at the mirror, don’t let no one stop you. If your family needs
to go out by 10, dress up 30 minutes early.
Impressing
Guys Are Just a Waste of Time Girls
Since when you are taught to do things in order to impress
guys? What is that for? A bonus for you? You think their compliments and
admirations are the goals you’re wanting to strive? You really think if they
are impressed with you, you’ll succeed in life? One word for you.
Eww.
I sometimes look at the society. The guys are like, sitting
in the corner, looking at every girl they see. He searches if she has the
qualities that he wants as a girlfriend. Girls, on the other hand, try their
best to be attractive to guys in order to be selected.
It’s like you’re showing off how much you’re worth to those
guys out there so they’ll choose you.
Don’t you see? They’ll choose the best. They’ll choose the
ones that appeal the most.
Guys don’t need much of an effort to impress girls much.
Guys are like judges, giving marks to girls who walks down the fashion show
lane. Girls eagerly try to look pretty for them –guys who only wore shorts or
plain t-shirt. (Easy to say, bad attitude, typical minded or etc)
Not all guys are bad, but not many are good. Similar to
girls. We’re equal.
What about you girl? Have you ever thought what kind of guy
you want? Does he fit in your criteria? Or to you that’s not important? As long
as you’re chosen?
Come on, what’s the point of showing off your speciality to
a bunch of strangers who you don’t even know if he can handle his life or iron
his own clothes?
Besides, you’re only going to marry one guy for life anyway.
He’ll notice you without you needing to show off.
Wink*
Watch Out!
That’s a Possible Reputation Spoiler There
Reputation and girls can’t be separated. At all.
Suppose to say a girl is walking pass a group of guys who
starts to look at her and shout out things like ‘hey, where are you going?’ She
rolls her eyes and walks faster without a glimpse of smile. Their reaction:
Boy: Having to feel the girl thinks she’s too pretty and
they are looked down upon. Laughs hard because they think she’s an idiot on
thinking that way.
Girl: Thinks if she smiles back even in a friendly way the
boys will think she’s flirting with them. Alert! Spoiler on reputation. Roll
eyes showing how she’s not into this stuff and move on to avoid them.
Girls, you’re acts matters a lot. One little mistake people
will bash you saying you’re too cheap, you have no dignity blablabla. Trust me,
you’ll enjoy your life with freedom once you take care your reputation
standards.
You can never avoid mistakes, but you can always detect if
it’s lead to a bad sign of doing a certain act. Remember, think before you act.
You can make a difference.
Also, besides this, to take this is an Islamic perception,
do you think degrading yourself is a good thing? Islam never forbids you to
enjoy life, but it has never permitted you to do things that’ll spoil your
reputation standards.
Idk bout you but whenever I go out shopping, especially when
there are a majority of other races, I feel this glimpse that there are people
watching me. Because I’m wearing a hijab. It’s a title you’ll never let go. If
you do a silly act, they’ll label islam is ‘bad or unimpressive, total failure
etc’.
Now, who’s responsible for that? You. Yeah you. And me too
of course.
Get Up When
People Hits You Down
You’re a
girl, people will see you as a weak, degraded person. Guess again, don’t let
people think you’re worthless.
I remember
doing this calm little act of dealing with some girl who looks down on me. During
the end of the year she gave me her book to write any last says about her. You
know, ‘share your best moments with me’ kinda thing.
Wait, do we
even have good memories together?
Never. She
never tolerates with my order of cleaning the class, rolls her eyes, watches me
intensely every day, refuses to hear my presentation n etc. I had to be honest
on this, like always.
“Obviously I
see that you don’t seem to like me –which I don’t mind. But next time try to
not make your expressions too obvious .I’m not that stupid you know. All the
best in your life J”
People with
negativity in your life should be shoved away. Not worth being in your world.
When someone
hits you hard on the face, it’s either you fight back or do nothing but laugh. There
will be haters. All the way. No matter how much you don’t involve yourself with
such things.
You don’t
need to be cool or popular or awesome to stand on your rights. I won’t
recommend you to take this habit of mine but really, it’s worth if you love yourself.
If she treats me bad without reason, she’ll get it back. Look at them for more
than 5 seconds with silence, raise your eyebrow without smiling. They won’t
mess with you next time. Trust me.
Keep on
Crying, You’re Not Weak
Why is that
when it comes to girls who cry, we are considered weak. But when a guy cries,
he is known for being brave on expressing his feelings? Tell me what differs us
both? Girl, cry as much as you want. Because in the end you’ll have this fresh
feeling glowing in the soul.
Crying makes
your heart grow fonder, filling your thoughts on why you’re so sad. Then it interprets
initiatives on how to conceal it –make it go away. Your brain starts to have
such creative logical ideas on how to deal with it.
Results, you’re
being stronger every day. That won’t stop you crying, but you know where you
stand because your brain is used to such conflicts. So if someone says you’re
weak, there must be something wrong with them.
Go Leave
Your Feminine Habit for A While
No matter how feminine we are, there are some parts that are
considered to be male-oriented. As long as you don’t appear, act or do anything
like a boy, then do it. Like having an interest in X-box, racing, go-carts,
football or wearing sneakers.
I love watching action movies rather than romantic ones.
Pacific Rim is my favourite. It has to do with Kaiju monsters, robots and shootings.
Lots and lots of bombings. Or be interested with my little bro’s robots or
drones.
Or how I admire to watch guys wearing head caps, black jeans
and those perfect black converse shoes with white-lined platform. They look
cool. I’d murmur ‘no, don’t think about wearing them’.
Haha, but imaginative dreams can never bother.
Enjoy as
Much Of Your Time Just To Yourself
Who says
being alone means you’re lonely. You have to balance your time. It’s not like everyday
you hang out with people. When will you do that reflecting project of yours?
Reflecting
project means finding space alone to think back if your acts have offended
others, find ways to heal it up if so or try to improve yourself better than
before.
That way you’ll
know if what you did is either right or wrong.
While you
enjoy your time alone, it’s okay to do crazy things. Even princesses who are
trained with such high quality manners and standards, they’ll be among the craziest
people alive if they get the chance to be free.
Haha I don’t
deny the fact that everyone has their craziness, it depends on how they cover
it up or embrace it. :P
If trying
make-up for the first time and end up looking so messed up you just can’t help
but to laugh at yourself, just do it. If it means you’d try to figure out a new
dance move in front of the mirror and looks how silly you look, just do it. If it
means trying up to take your parent’s advice on being more feminine, just do
it.
Have
Independent Perception as a Number One Priority
We have our own lives to build right? We have our own
success to expect a better future in the end right? Or it is that you are the
kind of girl who sits and waits for prince charming?
Note this. There is no prince charming. You’re on your own
on this. You don’t need him.
Intelligent girls don’t see having a partner means she would
have to have him as her first goal in life. Of course he matters a lot to her,
but that doesn’t make her any fonder to depend on him 360 degrees of her life.
Being independent on yourself and building confidence is a
good thing. It’s the most powerful thing a girl can do. If you reached this
point, you’ll understand that it’s an awesome feeling of admiration of yourself
for being high on your perception.
Girls are so
special. Girls, we’re so worth it. We are special in our very own way. By
conclusion, these acts would matter a lot if you’re a girl. Embrace them girl,
but remember, always know yourself. Your personality, your kind of being.
If not, go take a personality quiz. You’ll love yourself
more, trust me haha.
Happy belated Women’s Day Girls :P
